Thrive as a Butterfly, Firefly, Wallflower, or Evergreen

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llustrations by Anna Parini.

Hi there, I’m Kasley, the social scientist who partnered with the New York Times to develop the quiz.

The four Styles originated in my new book, The Art and Science of Connection—your handbook for thriving.

Kasley Killam, MPH, expert in social health and connection wearing a pink blazer and blue jeans. Sitting on a white stool smiling directly at the camera.

We all know the importance of taking care of our bodies by exercising, eating nutritious foods, and getting a good night’s sleep. We also know the value of taking care of our minds by meditating, going to therapy, and doing self-care.

But have you noticed that you can do all of these things and still not thrive if you don’t have strong relationships?

I’ve been studying, sharing, and applying the science of human connection for over a decade and I’m passionate about creating a more socially healthy world—starting with you and me.

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